The ninth step prayer is important to getting over that constant state of guilt and shame that one has after years of hurting people. Because the ninth step deals with making direct amends with those we have hurt, it helps us get over that never-ending state of guilt. Use this prayer to find the strength to make direct amends but also to practice living in a spiritual way going forward.
God, give me the strength and direction to do the right thing no matter what the consequences may be. Help me to consider others and not harm them in any way. Help me to consult with others before I take any actions that would cause me to be sorry. Help me to not repeat such behaviors. Show me the way of Patience, Tolerance, Kindliness, and Love and help me live the spiritual life. Amen.